Getting help from the "other side" using the Silva Method. Silva Jose

How to break a vicious circle.

If you relax deeply and imagine realistically ...

If you are confident in the Silva Method and know that you are programming successfully ...

If, by solving your problems, you help other people solve their problems ...

If you don’t hide ill will, hatred or hostility in your bosom and forgive everyone in your past and present life ...

If you are aware of the existence of your Higher Self, even dimly, and the existence of the Higher Intellect ...

Then you can overcome all the problems of the physical world. There is no insoluble problem or unattainable goal for you. Many incurable diseases succumb to "miracles". Many deadly enemies become your closest friends. Many seemingly unattainable peaks are conquered in unexpected ways. The problem is forced to retreat, defeated by the intellect, power and love of the other side.

What technique is available to you to solve difficult problems? Here's a quick overview:

Whenever you find yourself in a situation that requires heightened understanding, use the three-finger technique. Programmed in advance: "When I put these three fingers together and meditate on (insert problem), my mind is working on a deeper level of consciousness for the sake of (insert positive)."

In difficult situations that are difficult to figurative thinking, use the glass of water technique.

When you don’t know what technique to use, or don’t imagine what the solution might be, use the dream control technique.

Use subjective communication when solving problems of relationships between people.

In any emergency, use the alpha level (unspecified technique) by instilling positive affirmations in yourself.

Each of these techniques can be performed in critical circumstances in "top gear". Let's go through the list again, pointing out how we can expedite response in an emergency or urgent situation.

"Three-finger technique". When you program in advance for an event, do it at the best possible time. If you remember, we explained how to determine this time: In the evening before going to bed, enter the alpha level and mentally say to yourself: "I will wake up this night at the best time for self-programming." Fall asleep from alpha. You will wake up at the right time. Return to alpha and do the programming of the three-finger technique. Another way to increase the instantaneous effectiveness of the three-finger technique is through breathing. If you are faced with a critical situation and decide to use this technique to raise your awareness to the level of superconsciousness by putting three fingers together, take a deep breath and hold your breath for a few seconds. Holding your breath triggers a survival response and you begin to work at a higher level of consciousness.

"The technique of a glass of water". Place a few drops of lemon juice in the water and hold the glass with the index fingers of both hands. Having joined the fingers of both hands, close your eyes and lift them slightly upward, then, mentally saying: "This is all I need to solve the problem that torments me," sip half a glass. Finish programming in the morning by repeating the same manipulations.

"Dream Management". This technique will not show all its effectiveness if you do not memorize all of your dreams. Even if you do, you might want to go through the programming of remembering one dream first and then all dreams (see Nights 11 and 16). When you wake up, write down as many details as possible from your dreams. And later, when you explore your dreams, one detail may be the golden key you are looking for.

"Subjective connection". When you are dealing with serious human relationship problems, you need to be close to the other side. Subjective communication at the alpha level is good; but subjective communication at the laboratory level is even better. You are closer to the other side.

"Programming at the alpha level". Direct alpha programming can be used to solve problems. If you are programming at the alpha level without using any formulaic technique, you should know how to leverage your programming. Here is some of them:

A serious problem deserves a deeper alpha level. You know how to deepen a level with a countdown. You can also do this by being transported to your favorite relaxation spot, which is now also a familiar procedure.

Another way to deepen your level is through progressive relaxation. You remember doing this in the early days of practice - moving from head to toes and relaxing every part of the body. Of course, after these exercises, you can dive even deeper, moving to the laboratory level, if you think you need it.

Once in deep alpha, use the three skins.

First, identify the problem by painting a picture in front of you. Then let it change for the better in the second picture, which should be shifted slightly to the left (into the future). Finally, see the goal achieved or the solution found in the third picture, shifted even further to the left. When creating a second look, it is useful to use triggers ("with every step forward" or "with every sip of water").

Images are usually sufficient; they express the work of creative energy, they are the "language" of that side. Words can be powerful weapons too if you use persuasive arguments. As we all know, it takes perseverance to overcome adversity.

When we work to solve problems, our statements must be solid. As John Bunian said, "the one below is not afraid to fall." There is no need to be moderate or beat around the bush when you need help from the other side in serious matters. I will give some examples of possible statements.

"I expect and predict results. I believe in steady progress, whether I see it or not. My expectations and faith are optimistic."

"I have a burning desire to achieve my goal (to solve my problem). I move forward with energy and zeal. My genius, my enthusiasm and my goodwill will win the support of others."

"Every day I get stronger and more courageous. I see things as they are. I am optimistic about achieving a goal (solving a problem). I work energetically, purposefully and creatively."

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“Your happiness cannot come from outside. If so, then this is a dependent, fragile happiness that will soon turn into sadness. "

J. Foster

For a very long time my main teacher has been my World. He always shows me where to look and what to accept in myself in order to become even more free.

My World with great love reflects to me my beliefs and convictions, all my fears and doubts. Everything that has been collected by me over many lifetimes and accepted as my experience.

Having once set the goal to come to inner freedom, my world every day gives me hints that I need to accept in myself.

The topic of addiction has accompanied me since childhood.

My dad was addicted to alcohol. And not only dad, in my world there were a huge number of men and women with various types of clearly manifested addictions.

Read also:!? Think about what "alcohol" was originally? Wine is grape juice with sugar. Vodka is a wheat drink, etc.

I didn't even think about other addictions then. Many years of rejection of alcohol, resentment against my father, years of letters of forgiveness ... When we came to the understanding that we think in images, I saw the image of "alcohol" the very first. This topic was so painful for me.

What is addiction?

This is Submission to others, someone else's will, someone else's power, in the absence of independence, freedom.

Addiction(addiction, English addiction - propensity, habit) - an obsessive need to perform certain actions, despite the adverse consequences of a medical, psychological or social nature.

In a different sense addiction(English dependence - dependence) - the desire to rely on another person (or other people) for satisfaction, safety, achievement of their goals.

What do we depend on and what does the World show us when we meet addicted people?

1) We depend on the love of others

Love and dependence are not just different, but practically opposite, in their essence, phenomena.

Love brings joy, and addiction brings suffering, or excruciating, poisonous, short-term pleasure, like the pleasure of a drug addict. Love allows everything to be, and addiction is always about Fear and a sense of separation.

For example: a woman does everything for her husband or children, gives all her strength, dissolves in the family, lives for the sake of others. Suddenly the husband leaves, the children grow up and live their own lives. The world has collapsed, everything has lost its meaning.

What is the manifestation of this woman's fear? The fact that she actually made certain sacrifices for a reason; giving her strength, her youth, dissolving in the family, she tried to get something in return - most often unconsciously. To receive in return full understanding, unconditional acceptance, love, gratitude, security.

We have forgotten that Love, acceptance, a sense of security cannot be received from the outside, no matter how much we look for it in the outside world.

Read also:. Now is the time to love yourself, and without this, everything else that we strive for will either elude us or will be given to us with great difficulty.

2) We depend on the approval of our family

Many, like air, need approval, which means the love of other people. Most often, we expect approval from our loved ones, and when we do not receive approval, we get offended. Remembering that you already have everything you need, and it is within you, you stop looking for approval, which means support and love from the outside, you yourself begin to give it, out of excess, because you are the Source. You approve of yourself. And yet you attract people who approve and support you.

3) We are addicted to a state of love and joy

Once, having experienced a state of love and joy, I began to strive for this state, I did hundreds of excavations, loaded various feelings into myself, fought the state of apathy and laziness. And the state of joy was a rare guest inside me. I ran away from the state of dislike, I fought with it and did not accept it.

We are looking for a state from outside. We read prayers, chant mantras, striving to obtain a state of harmony and joy

If we have received temporary relief from prayer, we will resort to prayer more and more often. If we have received relief from chanting mantras or listening to meditations, we resort more and more often to what we think gives us a state of calm. This is how addiction is born.

We tie our state of joy and love to certain places, people or events

Read also: An article by Natalia Strikhar: it is impossible to please everyone, especially to be loved by everyone. You are not a banknote. Love is a gift, a gift from the bottom of my heart.

Joy always lives within us! When we go within ourselves, we find within ourselves an inexhaustible source of Joy.

4) We depend on our money

Many people have this type of addiction. If you have money, you are in a joyful and uplifting state, if you run out of money - despondency and fear. Did you recognize the condition? Once I vividly realized this state inside myself. As a rule, we see this in other people, in the husband or children. The whole truth is that what you saw from your family is yours. Theirs is what they see in you!

When the state of love and joy does not depend on external factors, on the presence or absence of money, when we are aware of ourselves as a source, here is then freedom comes.

5) We depend on recognition

We all need recognition, recognition of our individuality, recognition of us as a person, recognition of our merits. We are used to seeking, asking, demanding recognition from other people, or, working hard and hard, getting it. When we ourselves recognize ourselves, value our experience, our personality, then others will reflect this to us. All we need is recognition of ourselves!

6) We are dependent on the states of other people

If a husband or wife is happy and joyful, we are happy and happy. As soon as loved ones are not in the mood, our mood disappears ...

The addicted person feels helpless and needs constant support.

Flight into addiction Is the refusal of the choice that any person has. Instead of becoming addicted, which means choosing a life full of hopeless suffering and pain, you can always make a choice in favor of yourself, your happiness and your joy, which do not depend on external sources and circumstances.

From childhood, we have a need for unconditional love, full acceptance, self-expression, emotional communication, understanding and realization of needs. If the child has not received this in the family, over time, he can start using chemical preparations to protect his Self, regain a sense of comfort, security, and calmness. But, at the same time, access to his feelings is closed for him, and this, in turn, causes a very high internal tension and the inability to satisfy his needs in healthy ways. This is precisely the role of the use of chemical agents, with their help people change their state, achieving a feeling of "relief".

The introductory training "My family is my wealth" is continued by the next article by Tatiana Kuznetsova. Today we will focus on Karma, namely, such an interesting direction as family karma. This is a fairly broad topic, and today we will analyze the most burning issues.

How does the Soul choose parents?
Why do children often repeat their parental fate?
What happens to the karma of adopted children?
Do family diseases “travel” from generation to generation?
How does the Soul choose a life partner?
How many generations can problems be passed on?

General Karma, is there any?

If each person is an individuality, then everyone has their own Karma. The soul comes into this world to solve its problems, to receive the life experience it needs only. And in this case, the question arises: does family karma exist at all?

And on the other hand: sometimes you watch a family with an outside, impartial look and you understand that they have the same problems. These people - each with their own karma - repeat each other's fates from generation to generation.

Why is this happening?

When a Soul prepares for incarnation on Earth, it already faces certain tasks, it has its own mission.

The soul realizes:

What experience does she need to get in this incarnation
What does she need to learn, what lessons to take
What injuries and problems to work out
What to fix during the period of its incarnation
What kind of future to create for yourself - for the next life

And in accordance with the "homework" the Soul chooses for itself a family that is ideally suited for solving problems in the best way.

Want an example? Please. If the task is to work out grievances against men, then the Soul will incarnate into a woman and choose a family in which the father will leave them immediately after birth or will behave rudely and aggressively.

If the girl cannot forgive her father and accept him, whatever he may be, then she will carry these grievances into her adult life. She will play this "worn-out record" in a relationship with her own husband.

In fact, she will continue to resent her father, but transfer these feelings to her husband.

It's not hard to guess what will happen in her own family. If she does not understand this in time and does not work out, then she will destroy her relationship, and her family. Then there may be another husband, and one more ...

And if she had a daughter, then the daughter, in turn, will be offended by her father that he left them with her mother. As you can see the story "for some reason" repeats itself. The daughter's soul also solves similar problems.

What is the state of karmic affairs with adopted children?

Why does a particular child end up in a particular family - one of thousands? In order not to go into the jungle of cause-and-effect relationships, let us highlight the main thing: The soul of an adopted child performs two tasks:

1. Adoption itself.Children usually know that they have been adopted. Their highest task is to learn to forgive and accept what happened, to learn to be happy.

2. Other tasks for implementation... It is not by chance that the soul falls into this particular foster family. If this happened, then this particular family is the best fit for the Soul to fulfill its life programs. It is this family that provides new opportunities. Will the Soul cope, does it use all the opened potential? It is difficult to say without a detailed analysis of each situation.

Disease-travelers, or "hobby club".

If the same diseases are repeated from generation to generation in a family, this is also not accidental. There is a genetic predisposition to such "travel" of diseases, and there is a psychological one, which is often not taken into account.

For example, cancer is not inherited, but the attitude towards themselves, towards other people, towards the world is transmitted from parents. Views on life, unwillingness to change, the habit of being offended, accumulating negativity, being dissatisfied with oneself and others - this forms the ideal basis for the emergence and development of cancer.

If a person does not change his attitude to himself and to the world, then there is a high probability that he will repeat the fate and illnesses of his parents. Repetition after repetition leads to the fact that souls unite in a kind of "club of interests" - offended by men, unhappy in their personal lives, having similar health problems and other hereditary "charms".

There are thousands of examples - they are around us, and maybe in some way we are one of the examples.

A girl whose father suffers from alcoholism also marries an alcoholic ...

A boy who grew up without a father leaves his son at about the same age ...

The father died early, and the son subconsciously expects (read - programs) his own death at the same age ...

Mom constantly came across kind, but "unlucky" men in her life, and for some reason, her daughter, taught by bitter experience, chooses the same misunderstanding as her companions in life ...

How long can this last ?!

If you do nothing, humbly endure, accept “fate”, or in other words, be lazy, then the travels of diseases and the same problems can continue for generations.Until someone most conscious in the family really gets tired of it.How to break this vicious circle?

"An adult personality always has a choice" -

so my teacher at the university said.

The Soul incarnates not only with the tasks that it needs to solve, except for tasks, the Soul always has the main thing - the opportunity. It's like a craftsman who comes to change your faucet in the kitchen, always has the right key, the right rubber gasket or nut in his pocket. It's just that, unlike a master repairman, the Soul is always equipped with the necessary tools.

When you manage to break the chain of problems, it opens up the opportunity to live in a new way for other family members and subsequent generations. They will also be able to benefit from new experiences and perspectives.We adopt from other people not only the bad, but also the good.

If the daughter let go of her grievances against men and lives happily, then the mother may unconsciously copy new behaviors, new ways of thinking, and new attitudes towards men.

And even if already in adulthood, the mother can reconsider her life, her relationship with a man, and at some point just become happy.

If one person in the family managed to solve a problem, this is a sign for everyone that the problem is solvable for them too, and there is no need to be afraid of it or continue to endure it.

Three conditions for solving our problems.

If you want to change something, if you realized that this is exactly your role, then forward to the changes! You will achieve results faster if you follow these simple rules.

1. Willingness to act.

You need not just desire, but the intention to get out of the vicious circle, the willingness to change your life for the better. So that it would not be like in a well-known dialogue:

Ah, I want to go to Paris again.

Already was?

I already wanted to.

2. Tools and knowledge!

Methods and techniques, practices and meditations, articles and communication with students and Masters will help you. Actually, for this we conduct an introductory training and the main course "Happy family", so that you realize the need, act and understand what result you want to achieve.

3. Support from other people.

It is difficult to look at yourself from the outside with an absolutely detached, cold-blooded and even someone else's gaze - but this is necessary. People often need an impulse from the outside that will trigger the process of change. You can study on your own, read books and try everything you read on yourself. But, as practice shows, it is much more effective to work in a group - under the supervision of a Master and with the support of other students.

Our problems - where do the legs grow from?

In systemic psychology, there is the term "karmic interweaving", the people say "fatal ties". This is when traumatic situations are repeated in a person's life, and no matter how much a person works with himself, they do not go away. Because they are drawn to him through time space from his predecessors.

People and faces change, but the nature of the recurring problem is the same - breakups, quarrels, loss of property or fires, loss of work, etc.

When a certain situation happened in your family, and at that moment it was not fully lived - it was not released by the actors (the offenders were not forgiven, there was a nagging pain, a feeling of shame, anger, powerlessness, etc.), then these feelings never go away. They remain in the family field.

The next generations will come under the influence of these feelings. Perhaps you too. Remember the situations in which you are experiencing "like a mother or great-grandmother" are attracted to you, and you are again experiencing these feelings of loss, guilt, loss. Feelings seem to be justified, but the experience is not yours, the ancestors.

What to do in this case?

It is important to recognize and respectfully remember the person in whose life a negative situation happened for the first time. You need to acknowledge his fate and be grateful for his contribution to your family system.

Such a step leads to an important effect, which we call "disidentification," or, simply put, the breaking of the fatal connection. After that, you, like a ship that has been tied to reefs for years, suddenly break the restraining bonds of old algae and finally set off on a free voyage.

We will deal with this in detail at the 2nd stage of the course "Happy Family" - it is devoted specifically to the healing of negative generic programs, hereditary problems and diseases.

Tatyana and I prepared a theory, practical exercises and four meditations:

1. Genogram of the genus - You are filled with the strength and power of your kind, and you know dangerous places and avoid them.

2. Healing speakerand - You got out of the vicious circle of recurring problems and illnesses, found freedom and opened new horizons for happiness, success, well-being.

3. Healing personal destiny- You broke the fatal connection with a dysfunctional fate, gained the opportunity to be yourself and follow your desires. You stopped attracting inappropriate partners into your life.

4. Treasure box- You removed the old scenarios according to which you used to build problematic relationships, and replaced them with new ones - desired and leading to happiness.

Want to practice right now?

Let's do an exercise. And at the same time, this practice will serve as preparation for the second online seminar, which will take place on March 20 (Thursday) - with Tatyana Kuznetsova. In the workshop we will talk about these destructive programs in the family field. And not only will we talk.

We will have theory, practice, and meditation to begin the healing process now.

But this is next Thursday, now do the preparatory exercise, and write about the results in the comments.

The exercise

Remember an unpleasant / problematic situation that repeats itself over and over again in your life. It could be a life situation, or a health problem.
Pay attention to the emotions and feelings that come. Write them down - maybe you get one item, or maybe a list of several items
Now ask yourself a question - who else from my family has / had similar events? Write down the answers.

These notes will be useful to you on Thursday,when we do the Family Field Healing meditation - in meditation you can start healing these problems.

As we said, we will work deeper with this topic in our main Course "Happy Family". To read about the Course and enroll in one or all three levels at oncefollow this link .

By the way, did you noticehow closely our psychology has something in common with esotericism? This approach - when practicing psychologists combine their knowledge with Reiki practices - has proven to be effective, especially when working with personal and family relationships. Therefore, this approach has become the hallmark of our School.

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