With this article, dear friends, let me open most interesting topic about body language.
Have you ever wondered why you like to sleep on your back or side, curled up, or with your feet under the mattress?
Meanwhile, they are full of meaning, they reflect his essence, image and style of life, line of behavior.
Body language (facial expressions, gestures and postures) contains 80% of information about a person and is conditioned, which cannot be faked.
So says Allan Pease, an outstanding specialist in the field of human relationships, who wrote the book “Body Language”.
While we are awake, if we wish and using strict self-control, we can control our body movements. However, at night, self-control is impossible, because our consciousness is at rest, body movements and postures are dictated by our subconscious, and they openly talk about our fears, experiences, and preferences.
Famous psychologists Samuel Dunkell, Dale Carnegie, Sigmund Freud and somnologists agree that a person’s postures in sleep best characterize his physical and mental condition.
Let's look at and analyze the main postures, and Samuel Dunkell, a doctor and psychoanalyst, and his book “Sleeping Postures” will help us with this. Night body language."
Basic sleep positions
During a night's sleep, a sleeping person changes his body position from 25 to 30 times. And if he is sick or under stress, then more than 100 times. This means large movements and significant movements of the entire body.
Studies have shown that the sleeper takes ten or more different positions in his sleep, but basically they are mirror images of each other. If we look at these mirror poses from a psychological point of view, they are one and the same thing. In addition, many poses are intermediate and short-term.
Samuel Dunkell divides all poses into “Alpha” and “Omega”:
- Initial or "alpha" pose. The body position in which we fall asleep.
- Basic or "omega" pose. The position in which we are comfortable, we return to it every now and then during sleep, and in it we most often wake up in the morning. This pose is the main one and should be considered in the analysis.
Dr. Samuel highlighted 4 main (basic) “omega poses”:
1. "Embryo".
2. “Stretched out.”
3. "On your back."
4. “Half-embryo.”
Germ. In this pose, the whole body is curled up, the knees are bent, and the knees are pulled as close to the chin as possible. A person lying in this position tends to cover his face and center of the body, clasping his legs with his arms and palms, and closing them in a ring. Hiding the internal organs, the sleeper sometimes hugs a pillow or blanket.
Analysis: a person is like a tightly curled bud; he does not allow himself to open up to the events of life, its joys and difficulties, and therefore does not use his life potential to the fullest. Usually such people sleep while occupying top corners bed, turning his face away from the wall.
While awake, they experience a high need for protection, a point of support (loved one, family, children) around which they can organize their lives and will depend on it. They adhere to a dependent line of behavior that was formed in early years, and provided them with security of existence.
Prostrate. A person lies face down, his arms are most often thrown above his head, while his legs are straight and extended, and his feet are spread apart. The sleeper seems to be protecting himself from the surprises and troubles that he expects.
The pose reflects the desire to dominate the space of the bed, embracing it as fully as possible. If it is not possible to capture the necessary space in bed, a person feels vulnerable.
Analysis. While awake, people who prefer this position experience a similar need to control their living space and the events in it.
They are vulnerable, do not like surprises, and organize their life activities in such a way as to avoid any surprises. They are characterized by punctuality and self-discipline, accuracy and diligence in achieving their ideal of a measured and predictable world.
Sleeping on your back or the “royal” position. The arms of a person lying on his back lie freely on the sides of the body, and his legs are turned out and free, they are not scattered chaotically to the sides, but are not closed either.
Analysis: There is an old proverb: “Kings sleep on their backs, wise men on their sides, rich men on their stomachs.” Dr. Samuel was convinced more than once that a person sleeping on his back feels like a king not only in his dreams, but also in life. These people, as a rule, were children in childhood who were loved and surrounded with increased attention.
“Royal” is the pose of a confident, straightforward, decent, simple-minded, sometimes rude person. In life, he is a leader who persistently achieves his goals, or a headstrong stubborn person who defends his opinion.
It is very difficult to convince the “king”. Accustomed from childhood to being the center of attention, he adult life strives in any society (in the family, in the company of friends, in professional activity) take a dominant position.
Regardless of the type of activity, people who take the “royal” pose in a dream feel completely safe, have strength of personality and confidence in their abilities. They are ready to openly and joyfully accept the world as it is, and feel their unity with it.
The desire to occupy the center of the bed and the face turned upward indicates the neatness and rationalism of a person.
Important. If you begin to wake up in a royal position with your hands behind your head, and this position in your sleep was not typical for you before, undergo a cardiac examination. Perhaps this is a sign of problems with the heart.
"Half-embryo". The most common position in sleep. According to a 1909 study by Boris Sidney at Harvard, right-handers sleep primarily on their right side, while left-handers sleep primarily on their left.
The advantage of this position is the physical comfort of the sleeper:
In this position, when the legs are slightly bent at the knees, the body retains heat better, while air circulates freely around the body.
The center of the body and the heart, the most important organ, are well protected.
The pose allows you to roll over from one side to the other without completely disrupting the configuration of the body. In the “prostrate”, “fetal” and “on the back” poses there is much less opportunity to move without violating the accepted body position.
Analysis: physical comfort and common sense postures characterize the degree of a person’s adaptation to the world.
Typically, individuals who choose this pose are reliable and balanced. They adapt to living conditions without undue stress. Their psyche is stable, they do not need to control the space in bed, they do not curl up into a “fetus” in order to find protection from the uncertainty of the future.
So, each person has his own individual set of body movements. The complexity of a person's character is reflected in the number of positions he takes in his sleep and in the unique combination that he chooses. Many of us can take two or three postures during the night that are important for analysis.
The position changes throughout the night.
For example, you can fall asleep in the “royal” position and wake up in the “fetal” or “semi-fetal” position. What could this mean?
In wakefulness, a person considers himself the ruler of his world, the “king” of the situation. And when he falls asleep, he no longer needs to “keep his mark” either in front of others or in front of himself. In sleep, the restraining centers are silent and people behave like children sincerely and directly, which is manifested in postures.
A majestic and confident person during the day, who falls asleep in a “royal” pose, in a dream takes a pose that reflects his deep attitude to the world, he can show himself to be completely different - sensitive and vulnerable. The “royal” pose represents one aspect of his personality, but it is far from the main one.
Thus,
The pose we most often take in our sleep reflects our true attitude towards the world and ourselves.
As you can see, the sleeping postures carry a deep meaning, but it is very important to avoid a simplified approach when analyzing, because the position of the body in a dream is influenced by many reasons.
Factors influencing sleeping postures
General physical state and diseases:
pain in the stomach can force you to sleep lying on your back, covering the painful area with your hand. If you have shoulder or hip pain, you will sleep on your healthy side. People suffering from heart pain and respiratory ailments often sleep sitting, covering themselves with pillows.
With sleep disturbances, a person cannot fall asleep for a long time and tosses and turns, taking the most comfortable position, but not typical for him.
When the disease goes away or painful sensations are removed with the help of analgesics, the person returns to his characteristic posture.
Ambient temperature. If it’s cold, we curl up and diligently wrap ourselves in a blanket. When it’s hot, on the contrary, we open up and spread our legs and arms as far as possible to the sides, trying to increase heat transfer.
Excessive lighting. We cover our heads, turn to the wall, cover our eyes with our hands.
All these factors should be taken into account when interpreting the sleeping position.
We have looked at the main four poses, which can be transformed into a “sphinx”, “swastika”, “mummy” and so on. , and also, we’ll talk in the following publications.
Postures in sleep, unlike gestures, facial expressions and speech, are completely impossible to control, so this type of analysis, if approached correctly, will provide the most accurate information about the personality of a particular person. Of course, when you fall asleep, you can give yourself the most majestic pose in your opinion (the lotus pose or, for example, the stance of a hidden tiger), but as soon as you fall into the arms of Morpheus, the whole touch of majesty is transformed into something formless and incomprehensible. Don’t try to deceive yourself, the way a person sleeps is directly related to his lifestyle. In this case, it is the main position that should be analyzed, the one in which the person mainly sleeps.
A stable relationship that was not easy for you to build. Most likely, after an unsuccessful life experience, both partners thought that happiness would no longer be possible. And despite the fact that now happiness is in their hands, they live in fear of losing it.
This is how couples sleep who are united by a strong bond, but spend a lot of time separately. She can spend 10 hours at work, and he can spend nights with friends. And vice versa. Partners accept each other as they are.
The partners take this position spontaneously. Their faces are turned to different sides, but they share a strong bond. This is how people with different temperaments and preferences fall asleep. He is short, she is tall. He loves solitude, she loves company. But it is not all that bad.
Couples who sleep in this position are in love. But their views on the world are too different, so it is impossible to draw any conclusions with confidence about the future of this relationship. If spouses sleep in this position, then this indicates that they are protecting themselves from the outside world.
Such positions during sleep indicate that both are ready to live together and... not get on each other’s nerves. Each partner has full rights. Both are ready to accept the other's shortcomings as a given.
If we sleep this way, then most likely we are reacting this way to a quarrel that broke out during the day, or to a protracted misunderstanding. Both partners are like two pieces of ice, and the warmth of love could disturb their peace.
This is a union based on passion. Partners are united by common goals and dreams (heads are turned in one direction). There is mutual understanding on an intellectual level. The union promises to be not only happy in love, but also successful in joint business endeavors.
Such couples are obsessed with the idea of independence. They are afraid of intimacy, but they really need support to get rid of the fear in which they constantly reside. Such people are afraid to become strongly attached to a partner, to become one with him.
Psychology experts have said that a couple's relationship is best characterized by their sleeping position. Psychologist Joao Oliveira emphasizes that it is necessary to analyze the position in which people sleep at dawn, and not the one in which they fall asleep.
"Conquering Space"
If the way you sleep resembles option “1”, it is preferred by people who love each other, but their relationship still requires close attention. Psychologists note that someone who sleeps on their back has no need to see their partner, while someone who sleeps on their stomach is stubborn and somewhat withdrawn. At the same time, the intertwining of legs indicates that people have obligations to each other.
"Back to Back"
The couple strives to maintain personal space without losing contact. This pose indicates a stable and healthy relationship, as if emphasizing its symmetry. For people who sleep this way, the presence of a partner nearby is a prerequisite for comfort.
"You are far away from me"
This pose signals that something is clearly wrong in the couple’s relationship. The lack of contact between bodies and the fact that partners turn away from each other may mean that people are seeking more personal freedom or see each other as competition. If the body is tense and the hands are “closed,” the couple probably recently quarreled and does not intend to make peace. If the body is relaxed, then there is no tension in the relationship; most likely, people trust each other and respect the personal space of the partner.
"At arm's length"
“Spontaneous relationships” - this is the conclusion psychologists made when analyzing this sleeping position. Each partner respects the other's personal space. Most likely, each of them has their own friends, they go to parties separately, but at the same time they trust each other endlessly. An outstretched hand means a willingness to protect your partner, and palms under the cheek indicate that the person is calm and comfortable. If there is a conflict between the couple, then such a pose may indicate an attempt to reconcile.
“I look at you like in a mirror”
A couple who sleeps in this position usually has a wonderful relationship. Routine and everyday problems cannot negatively affect the relationships within it. People who are active sleep in this position. sex life, while being good friends and wonderful partners.
"Don't go, stay with me"
Most likely, this couple strives for freedom, but a hand on the shoulder speaks of a manifestation of love. It is a necessity to feel your partner. This means that it is this feeling that a person lacks most of all. A person who sleeps in this position with his back to his partner, according to psychologists, has high self-esteem.
"Domination"
Body language experts note that such hugs are evidence of love and affection between spouses. Most likely the couple has a beautiful sex life. In this case, one of the partners prefers to dominate the relationship.
"Spoon"
If a partner hugs another from behind, this means that he is showing attention and care, psychologists are sure. Such a couple feels comfortable and safe together. Moreover, the relationship between people who sleep in this position is far from ideal. Most likely, there is some uncertainty in the relationship.
"Twist of arms, tangle of legs"
Experts say that when a couple intertwines their legs and arms in a dream, this indicates unbridled passion in the relationship. As a rule, couples sleep in this position at the beginning of a relationship, when they want to feel like one. Often jealous people sleep in this position.
"Half for you and half for me"
This pose indicates that a person does not seek to demonstrate love for his soul mate. Usually, those who need self-affirmation, including in relationships, try to occupy more space in the bed. In addition, experts note that stubborn people who strive for leadership in relationships and want to keep everything under control usually sleep with their hands raised above their heads.
Sleep is very important natural process, which gives the body rest and the opportunity to regain its strength. To get the maximum benefit from this process, sleep must take place in the most comfortable conditions, so when falling asleep, the body takes the position in which the person will be comfortable. What is noteworthy is that these positions vary depending on the characteristics of a person’s character. Thus, sleep positions will tell a lot about the personality of the sleeper, his fears and aspirations. This information will be useful if you want to get to know your partner better or are just wondering what the position in which you sleep means.
Psychology - main feature, which shapes a person’s position during sleep, but there are also certain physiological factors, which force you to take any postures in your sleep. This "sleep" physiology can greatly affect the position of the sleeping body.
Some circumstances beyond our control affect our posture in sleep:
- the temperature in the room can prompt a person to choose a position in which he can either warm up or feel cool;
- With some diseases, certain positions become uncomfortable, which, for example, make breathing difficult, put too much strain on the stomach area or put pressure on another sore spot;
- the pose may change due to a person’s temporary experiences;
- excessive noise or light can force you to sleep in a position that helps you hide from irritants;
- a person often sleeps differently in a new place, getting used to unusual conditions and adapting to the new sleeping area;
- an uncomfortable bed forces the body to adapt to its shape so that the sleeping position reduces discomfort as much as possible;
- When a person falls asleep with a new partner, he needs a position that will help him get used to such company.
A change in sleep position may be accompanied by a deterioration in rest or even insomnia. To quickly get used to a new position, you can do special exercises.
When we go to bed, we take the most comfortable position, but as soon as our body realizes that we are sleeping, it will choose a position that can tell a lot about our personality. Having observed sleeping people, scientists, by correlating such things as sleep posture and character, thereby learned to determine a person’s character by posture.
While people sleep, their bodies are controlled by the subconscious, which speaks only the truth. This means that, following a certain principle, you can find out about a person something that he did not even know about before.
Having found the position in which a person sleeps most often, you can begin to identify it and reveal its features.
Fetal pose. In this position, a person is in side contact with the surface of the bed, and his legs are bent at the knees and pressed against chest. Sometimes the sleeper holds a blanket or other object between his knees. Often people in this position sleep on the edge of the bed, trying to take up as little space as possible. The pose suggests that the sleeper needs protection, and therefore he creates conditions close to the mother’s womb. Such a person is very closed, vulnerable, restless, and most likely tries to avoid responsibility. The lack of maternal affection made a person dependent on other people's help and attention. Despite this desire to find support from the outside, those sleeping in the fetal position have difficulty communicating and are wary of their surroundings, which is why they cannot always share their feelings. Although it is difficult for such a person to make friends, once he finds a friend, he really values this connection and is afraid of losing it.- Half-fetal pose. The person is in side contact with the surface of the bed, his legs, although bent, are not as close to the chest as in the previous position. Also, only one leg can be bent, and the other leg can lie on the bed without bending. This position is very comfortable, as the person retains enough heat to feel comfortable and vital. important organs covered, and turning over on the other side, general position the body will not change much. Considering the meaning of sleep posture, we can say that the sleeper prefers to be in the most comfortable circumstances for him, carefully considers his actions and easily adapts to a new environment. As a rule, such people take an adequate view of their capabilities and can remain calm in any situation.
- Normal pose. A third of the population sleeps in this position. The essence of the pose is that you are in contact with your side of the bed, and your arms and legs are slightly bent. Also, sometimes the hand rests on the chest or is hidden under the pillow. The usual posture speaks of a person’s calmness, initiative and sociability. Often such a person is bright and cheerful. If, while spinning in bed, the sleeper maintains his posture, then we can assume that the person is not frightened life changes. When a person lies in the middle of the bed, he is satisfied with his place in life, and when the sleeper moves to the edge of the bed, he is still looking for himself.
- Heron pose. This position is similar to the usual one, but the arms are placed under the head, one leg is straightened, and the second is bent and pressed against the first. The pose speaks of a person’s eccentricity, his changeable mood, while being bent upper leg- a sign that sexuality is increased, and lower sexuality is decreased.
- Position "on your stomach". When a person sleeps on their stomach, their arms are raised above their head and their legs are straight or slightly bent. Scientists have determined that sleeping in this position is not very open people who quickly let strangers in. Such people are completely self-sufficient and do not bend under others; they are pedantic, purposeful and know how to achieve their own goals. Although these people can be boring to interact with, their tenacity attracts others. If a person who sleeps on his belly also spins around a lot, he has many problems that he is now trying to solve. When a person sleeping on their stomach spreads their limbs freely, there is clearly a leader living within them, they must have order in everything and everything must be planned.
- Pose “on your back”. When a person sleeps in this position, his legs lie straight and his arms are not too close to his body. This characterizes the sleeper as an honest and straightforward person who does not know how to lie and believes in himself. Such a person is used to managing everything in his life. Many are put off by such directness, which sometimes borders on rudeness, but often a person unknowingly alienates those around him. It is difficult to convince a person sleeping on his back of something, because if he has set a goal for himself, he will achieve it, even if others persistently advise him to abandon the idea.
The posture in a dream is greatly influenced by the character, and therefore, even after spinning on the bed, the body will still return to certain positions.
So, if the subject of observation is tossing and turning on the bed, you need to wait until he falls into deep dream and assume your sleeping position. Then it will be possible to find out what the poses mean during the restoration of our strength at night.
The meaning of posture during sleep says a lot about the relationship in a couple. When a person sees a dream, he becomes very vulnerable, because he does not control his body, and such a situation can reveal his true attitude towards his soulmate. The way you lie next to your loved one reflects your fears and desires. Even when a person has dreams that have nothing to do with his partner, the body still shows its attitude towards the partner. So, how do couples often lie and what do their positions mean in a dream?
Co-sleeping helps the couple strengthen their relationship, and lovers trust each other more. For many girls and boys only after co-sleeping creates a feeling of maximum intimacy.
The manner of gestures, gait, hand placement and other little things can tell a lot about a person’s psychotype and his character. The position we take while sleeping can also tell us a lot about us. As a rule, a person can toss and turn all night, changing his position on the bed, but despite this, he will always return to the position that determines his current mental state. It follows from this that the position in which a person fell asleep cannot tell us practically anything. But the pose he takes in deep stage sleep, can reveal all the secrets, fears and dreams. Let's take a closer look at each of their poses outside.
Fetal position is a body position in which a person lies on his side, his legs are bent towards the stomach. This posture indicates a lack of desire to live in the real world. Everything that is happening around now does not attract a person at all. He is unhappy with many things in life; he would like to escape from all problems. However, nothing can be done about what is happening. This pose also speaks of uncertainty and indecision. Such people feel unprotected, they need special support and protection.
Side pose. This body position is somewhat different from the fetal position. The sleeper also lies on his side, but his position looks more relaxed: his legs are either straight or slightly bent at the knees. Those who sleep in this position, as a rule, have an analytical mind, peace of mind and objective assessment. Such individuals can easily adapt to any conditions and find mutual language with the person they need.
Pose on your stomach. People who sleep on their stomachs are overconfident and have great ambitions. They boldly go ahead, overcoming difficulties. Such people are not afraid to make decisions and take responsibility. They strive for independence and do not tolerate criticism. As a rule, these are strong and powerful individuals.
Pose on your back. If a person prefers to sleep on his back, then this, in turn, indicates his emotional relaxation. Such a person is calm and confident in his soul. Rarely does anything piss him off. He is not afraid of difficulties and always tries to be on top.
Star pose. This pose involves the position of a sleeping person lying on his back, with his arms and legs spread out in different directions, which makes this position look like a star. Self-confident individuals usually sleep in this position, but they are also distinguished by rare selfishness.
Exist some more aspects that can tell about the character of the sleeping person.
If in a dream a person sleeps hugging a pillow, mattress or blanket, then this means that he feels unprotected. He needs support and love.
If a person constantly dangles his legs over the bed in a dream, this indicates that he lives by his own rules. He is indifferent to all generally accepted norms of society; he wants to separate himself from the gray mass.
Crossed legs during sleep reveal a childish, passive and weak-willed person.
If a sleeping person rests his head on his palms, then this indicates that he has high intelligence, and, probably, it is with his mind that he earns his own life.
If the sleeper's arms are extended upward, this indicates weakness of character, passivity and carelessness. Such a person rarely thinks about his own and prefers to live one day at a time.
Your sleeping position can of course change over time. But this will happen only if a person changes his attitude towards himself and life and manifests himself differently in society.
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